11 Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back.
Proverbs 29:11 (NLT)
This is another verse on the topic of self-control. What did you do when you were provoked to anger? Did you vent it out and gave everyone a piece of your mind? Did the act of displaying your anger make you feel powerful? Do you have the desire of repeating such feats? If you have been venting out your anger, God calls you a fool and he wants you to repent. In the mind of God, displaying anger openly is something to be ashamed of. God thinks only fools do that. The difference between the fools and the wise is while fools vent their anger, the wise quietly hold it back. In this article, we shall look in depth on the necessity of controlling our anger.
First of all I would like to point out that Proverbs 29:11 never said anything about who have or does not have anger. Both the wise and the fools have anger. The difference lies in the way they respond to it. The fools allow themselves to be enslaved by their anger. They are under bondage. Why is giving way to anger a bondage?
When man is in an angry mode, he is no longer capable of thinking rationally. In other words, he cannot think. There is no room in his mind for alternative views or opinions. He is trapped in the belief that he has been wronged and he is a victim of injustice. Any suggestions that he may be wrong will only cause him to be angrier. Therefore, attempts to pacify and reason with an angry person are most likely to fail.
However, according to Proverbs 29:11, the wise respond differently to anger. When a wise man is provoked, he will still feel angry but he refused to allow himself to be enslaved by his anger. He will quietly hold it back. Why? As long as we are not consumed and possessed by our anger, we retain our ability to think and analyze the situation rationally. Thus, we will be in a good position to overcome the adverse situation that caused us to be angry in the first place. This is the characteristic of winners. Winners take control, losers allow themselves to be controlled.
“Don’t you think sometimes I have the right to be angry?”
The right to be angry is no different from the rights to be poor, sick, depressed, fail and die. Why do you want this right for? As for me, I prefer to have the right to overcome my anger and live in the prosperity God wants me to have.
“Suppressing anger can result in stress and subsequently disease.”
There is a difference between overcoming anger and just covering it up. When you are just covering up your anger, the anger is still there. It is less obvious because you pretend to be not angry. Another word for latent anger is unforgiveness. We are not designed to be unforgiving. Unforgiving is toxic to our bodies and souls. If you keep it there long enough, it will adversely affect your mental and physical health. The real solution for unforgiveness is to forgive and not venting out your anger.
When we forgive, we overcome our anger. We do not allow unforgiveness to ruin our mental and physical health. This means the wise are very forgiving because the wise want to live in the abundance of health and wealth.
“Why should I forgive this person who has done me wrong?”
We don’t forgive for the benefit of the person who wronged us. We forgive for the sake of our own health and wealth. Unforgiveness is hard work and it will result in sickness and poverty. When we unforgive someone, we allow this person to occupy our mind. We will end up using a lot of time thinking about this person instead of building up our faith to acquire greater health, wealth and success. Thus, when I say I forgive you, what I mean is, you are not worthy for me to think about you every day. I would rather spend time working on my faith for the sake of my prosperity.
In conclusion, don’t waste time getting angry. Spend time on your faith instead.